A live online workshop for men ready to move beyond pressure, disconnection, and performance into real connection, confidence, and pleasure.
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Most men don’t struggle with intimacy because something is “wrong” with them.

They struggle because of a pattern that shows up under pressure - in sex, in relationships and in the moments that matter.

And most of the time they don’t even realise it’s happening.

What This Workshop Is About

In this live 2-hour online workshop, where you’ll begin to see what’s really happening underneath your experience of sex and intimacy.

Not just symptoms like:

• performance anxiety
• loss of desire
• overthinking
• difficulty staying present
• feeling disconnected

But the underlying pattern driving it all.

The same pattern that:

• creates pressure
• keeps you stuck in your head
• pulls you out of connection
• and shapes your experience of intimacy

This is the pattern I see in around 95% of the men I work with.
And once you see it, everything starts to change.

What You’ll Experience

This is a guided, experiential workshop where you will:

• Identify your personal triggers in intimacy
• Map your default response pattern
• Understand the hidden cost of that pattern
• Explore the belief that keeps it in place
• Learn how to interrupt the cycle in real time
• Begin to create a new experience in your body

You’ll leave with a clear understanding of your own “intimacy pattern”, and the first steps to changing it.

The Core Insight

Sexual difficulties don’t reveal who you are.
They reveal the patterns you’ve learned.
And those patterns…
can be unlearned.

What This Helps With

This workshop is for men who recognise themselves in one or more of the following:

• You feel pressure to perform or “get it right”
• You overthink or lose presence during intimacy
• You avoid intimacy or withdraw when things feel uncertain
• You rely on porn, fantasy, or distraction
• You struggle with confidence, desire, or connection
• You know there’s more available… but don’t yet know how to access it

This work is grounded in a simple principle:
Pleasure is a Catalyst for Change

Everything is rooted in:

• awareness
• embodied experience
• consent
• nervous system understanding
• and real relational practice
• Trauma awareness

It’s about learning how to stay present in your body and in any form of sexual intimacy.

How the Workshop Works

• Live online session (Zoom)
• Guided exercises (you choose your level of participation)
• Chat-based sharing (optional)

This is a non-judgemental space.

You won’t be put on the spot, you won’t be asked to share anything you don’t want to and you can participate in a way that feels right for you.

What Becomes Possible

When this pattern is recognised and begins to shift, men often experience:

• more presence in their body
• less pressure and anxiety
• deeper connection with partners
• more confidence and ease
• greater access to pleasure
• the ability to express what they want

Most men can see the pattern quite quickly.

But changing it, especially in the moments that matter, requires practice.

This workshop is the first step.

For those who want to go further, this leads into:

The Advantage – 12 Week Programme

A structured journey where you learn to:

• recognise patterns in real time
• stay present in your body
• respond differently in intimacy
• build confidence through experience, not theory

With:

• 1:1 support
• practical tools and guided practice
• a space where you’re don’t have to do this alone

If you’re curious but not sure yet, you’re welcome to join and simply experience the work.
You don’t need to have anything “figured out” before you arrive.

Practicals
Date: Tuesday 12^th May
Time: 7-9pm UK time
Location: Online (Zoom)
Price: £25

Please arrive on time - doors close at 7pm UK time.

To preserve the confidentiality of all participants, the event is not recorded.

If you go on to join The Advantage, your workshop fee is deducted.

Book your place here: https://csservices.as.me/Patterns

How to prepare:
Arrive when the doors open at 6:55pm - late arrivals cannot be admitted.
Join from a static device with good connection and a private space where you will not be disturbed or overheard.
Bring a pen and some paper or a notebook with you.
Bring your curiosity.