Online Sex Therapist Sian Johnson
Client Stories & Testimonials

(shared with permission name changed to protect confidentiality)

When John, aged 32, first came to me, he was struggling with erratic erections, difficulties communicating with women, and a deep desire to become a better lover. He wanted to express himself more authentically during intimacy and to learn how to stop “going along” in relationships. His ultimate goal was to connect with women without crossing their boundaries, while developing a healthier relationship with his own desires.

Together, we focused on helping John build a sense of safety within his own body. Through somatic awareness and self-pleasure practices, he learned to experience full-body orgasms and to centre himself rather than defaulting to people-pleasing.
We also explored how to establish and maintain clear personal boundaries, understanding his own wants and needs before engaging with another person.

Over time, John developed new communication skills and clarity about the types of relationships he wanted to cultivate. One of his biggest fears was crossing someone else’s boundaries, as his own had been crossed in the past. We practiced how to ask for consent, how to be comfortable hearing “no,” and how to create mutual agreements that ensured safety and respect for both partners.

There were moments when the process was difficult, so much so that John considered giving up. Yet it was within those challenges that his greatest growth occurred. He showed perseverance, courage, and a willingness to face discomfort. It was in that discomfort that he became more resilient and grounded in his truth.
After a beautiful encounter with a woman, John wrote to me:

“I want to thank you for the coaching over the last few months. It's been challenging, uncomfortable, and it's also been eye opening with a lot... I mean a lot of Ah-Ha moments that have made me think, reflect and grow.

You have helped me drop my people pleasing tendencies so that I may reclaim my own power, wants, needs and desires without shame.

I struggled with the fear of crossing others boundaries for so long. You have done such an amazing job of showing me the importance of having my own boundaries and inviting women into the experience that I want to share with them. Having boundaries around my wants, needs and desires, without shame has been massively beneficial for my confidence. I no longer fear crossing boundaries as I have developed my own. I intend to send out invitations to beautiful women into the experiences I want to have with them. It is far less scary and far more empowering to focus on my boundaries, and allow other people to focus on theirs.

My Journey is not over yet and I look forward into the future with hope and optimism as I continue to learn, stretch and grow into the man I want to be and know I can be.

All thanks to you, Sian.”

It was a joy to witness John’s transformation, his deep commitment to self-awareness, integrity, and connection. His journey is a testament to the power of perseverance, vulnerability, and the courage to grow, even when it feels uncomfortable.

"My experience of working with you and completing the programme was unique, intriguing and eye opening. It was a rollercoaster of a learning experience as I never thought having control over ejaculation was even possible yet alone learnable.

During my taster session with yourself and possibly the first and second session into the programme, I did feel this journey was not for me but decided to carry on as I never had much to lose. I’m not sure why I decided to carry on but very happy I did. What you have taught me is invaluable and literally life changing and I will be forever grateful to you for this. I’d like to take this opportunity to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the whole learning experience in helping me achieve my goals and helping me feel empowered in my choices and decisions.

Your teaching style is captivating and you make the whole experience very enjoyable at the same time informative and to the point. I think what helps the experience even more is you mix your sessions with theory and practice. I’m trying to think of negative constructive feedback to help you but honestly really struggling. I would 100% recommend you without hesitation.

My medical history was the main reason I took the first step in contacting you. I know first-hand keeping quiet and not addressing erectile or any other sexual issue is not a solution. It has to be spoken about and tackled head on. I know for males this is not an easy subject but given my history (erectile dysfunction, pulling out of marriage last minute etc) and the fact that I have a penile implant, I was more than willing to come forward and seek help in issues I suffer from as this is the only way it can be resolved. Medical intervention is an option but the reason I took a chance on your course is because I wanted to experience treatment/solution outside the medical field which lead me to research tantra and in turn yourself.

Thank you very much for all the help, support and the learning experience."

Sian introduced me to the wheel of consent and loving touch within the constructs of tantra and intimacy coaching. It revolutionised my understanding of who I was, where I'd been and how my life patterns had formed. I am now able to see and feel beyond my old boundaries and inhibitions and connect more authentically and intimately with others.

I did a weekend, in-person Wheel of Consent workshop with Sian. She held the space beautifully and safely, helping us to explore in ever-greater depth the nuances and reality of consent: recognising and honouring what we want, and recognising and honouring what's going on for other people. This is deep, transformative work, and I can't recommend it or Sian highly enough.

Participating in Sian's Wheel of Consent workshop was life-transforming. I learnt how to say "No", and "I don't know". Now when I say "Yes", it's a real "Yes"! Thank you!

The sensual art of getting what you want - Wheel of Consent Weekend
I found this an excellent workshop. The event was well organised. The facilitator had planned all aspects of the session carefully. This resulted in a truly inclusive, respectful and safe space. The facilitator was clear, warm and direct - she modelled the communication style that supports participants in fun and safe interactions. I found the evening really helpful in deepening my understanding of the 'wheel of consent'. I would strongly recommend it.

Sian is a pleasure to work with, inspiring confidence and a calming atmosphere. I look forward to continuing the programme with her.

I went to Sian for getting help to unlock my psychological potential. Sian has vast knowledge on her domain and above all I have found her very kind and as a great listener. She listened to me patiently to get the understanding about how she can help me and then explained how we may proceed; she offers her courses both online and in person which is another great advantage for me. I highly recommend Sian if anyone having any psychophysical issues like me.”

I’ve enjoyed working with Sian and have found the course to be very worthwhile. Sian has been great to work with: she is well informed and has many resources at her disposal. She has provided a safe environment to learn, discuss and explore without fear or prejudice. I would recommend Sian to anyone needing help with their relationship issues.

My experience of working with you and completing the programme was unique, intriguing and eye-opening. It was a rollercoaster of a learning experience as I never thought having control over ejaculation was even possible yet alone learnable. During my taster session with you and possibly the first and second session into the programme, I did feel this journey was not for me but decided to carry on. I’m not sure why, but very happy I did. What you have taught me is invaluable and literally life changing, and I will be forever grateful to you for this. I’d like to take this opportunity to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the whole learning experience in helping me achieve my goals and helping me feel empowered in my choices and decisions.

Your teaching style is captivating, and you make the whole experience very enjoyable at the same time informative and to the point. I think what helps the experience even more is you mix your sessions with theory and practice. I would 100% recommend you without hesitation.

My medical history was the main reason I took the first step in contacting you. I know first-hand keeping quiet and not addressing erectile or any other sexual issue is not a solution. It has to be spoken about and tackled head on. I know for males this is not an easy subject but given my history, I was more than willing to come forward and seek help. Thank you very much for all the help, support and the learning experience.

Sian is a wonderful guide and mentor. She made me feel at ease from the moment I arrived, and I look forward to continuing my journey under her tutelage. If you are looking to improve or fulfil your intimacy potential, then I heartily recommend Sian’s courses.

Sian is a delightful person who put me at ease immediately. You can share your problems. I would totally recommend her. She behaves in an utterly professional manner, giving advice and guidance but at the same time being friendly and warm.

I first reached out to Sian mid -January 2023. I had come out of a turbulent relationship, where being intimate was not fun, but terrifying and unfulfilling all at the same time, where the expectation to perform was unrelenting, even if I did not feel I could. I felt trapped in a cycle of doubt and self-loathing, as if I was merely in intimacy to please women, even if I felt it was wrong, but more than that I had lost my ability to say no, or to ask for things that I found pleasurable or enjoyable, in other words, I had completely dissociated from my emotions and become robotic where intimacy was concerned. Having started a new relationship 4 months earlier and with intimacy having been discussed, I knew I needed to redefine my relationship with intimacy so that I could fall in love with it again and take this into my new relationship.

The first time I came to see Sian, at the end of January, I was nervous about what to expect and how the conversations would go. Sian immediately put me at ease, and the phrase “all of you is welcome” was such a relief to hear, especially when emotions started tumbling out, alongside my tears. Never has a better phrase been spoken as that one to me at that time. Sian explained to me the importance of being in consent, being able to choose and how to move from the feeling of fear into the joyous side of life.

As the programme moved forward, Sian encouraged me every step of the way, moving forward at a pace that was comfortable for me, with no pressure to rush onto the next stage. The homework tasks I was set, were similarly gently paced, whether that be from the deep breathing exercises to feel into myself, to the communication style I was using, to the self-pleasuring exercises and finding out what I found pleasurable or not and how this could change from one time to another (which by the way I found to be a revelation), whilst all the while Sian would be promoting acceptance and enjoyment in anything I experienced, any feelings of shame being broken away, and being encouraged to remember to say maybe or no if something didn’t feel right for me, another huge revelation and a massive confidence booster for me.

By the time I arrived at Stage 3, I felt already more accepting of my likes and dislikes, in terms of being touched, where to be touched, and how I could communicate, but I still had to face my biggest concern, of practising all this with someone else. Sian immediately put me at ease here too, reminding me that it was OK to say stop or no at any point, and there was no rush or expectation for me to do anything. The feeling of building connection through eye-gazing and holding hands really was empowering to me, and when we moved onto the more intimate touching, I felt a calmness and strength that I had never felt before, along with a confidence that I was in the moment and was there to experience and enjoy it, without dissociating in any way. No more doubts, no more second guessing, just a beautiful feeling of happiness.

I worked with Sian on the S.E.P for 20 hours of face-to-face sessions over 7 months, plus time for homework and practice of new techniques between each session. It has been the greatest, most revelatory, confidence-building, empowering 7 months I could have ever wished for. I feel more empowered, confident, and comfortable in my intimacy than ever before and my new relationship is blossoming better than I could have wished for too.

If you are in any doubt about your intimacy, for whatever reason, please come and see Sian. It has done so much for me, and it really can for you too. Remember, all of you is welcome with Sian.

I’d heard about Sian from a Tantra Festival where she was running a workshop and I got in touch to see if I could work with her on a problem that has been with me for 35 years. I had at this point pretty much accepted defeat. I doubted that I could fully express my masculine side ever again! I admit, I was very nervous to begin with, but Sian helped me to relax and guided me to make choices during the session and go at a pace that was just right for me. I’m so glad I went ahead with this. The talking part was essential to begin with and the bodywork was the deepest I have ever experienced. In just one session I got clear glimpses of how to move forward. Sian’s generosity in that session was a gift to me that I will always treasure, it was the key that unlocked me and led me through the fear to exactly where I wanted to be. It was all just life changing! Me and my body are so grateful for the opportunity to experience what Sian and I shared.

I have been seeing Sian for some years now and have thoroughly enjoyed what she offers and teaches, from Tantric Massage to Ecstatic Dancing. However, the day-long Tantric Fusion Retreat, which she designed specifically for me, took everything to a different level. Sian used the whole panoply of her experience, knowledge and techniques to guide me into a completely aroused but trance-like state driven by sexual energy. This was like nothing I had experienced before; it was the highest sustained arousal I have ever achieved. Over time, and with continued guidance from Sian, I am sure I will achieve my goal of totally self-aware transcendence.

The whole programme, which took me seven months to complete, has been completely transformative for me. I’m not the same person I was when I started. It’s been a huge commitment, particularly from the emotional perspective, but I can honestly say that it’s been one of the most worthwhile things I’ve ever done. I now understand why I was held back from forming relationship before. I don’t know what the future will hold, but thanks to Sian I do know that I’m now much better equipped to make the most of it!

My session yesterday was nothing short of amazing. Already I feel a deeper connection with myself and able to embrace my sexual energy, where before it felt like a threat.

A real sense that you were right there with me gave me, for the first time an opportunity to explore my sexual energy and already I can feel a change in other areas of my life. My energy has been truly cleansed.

I felt safe and held, both emotionally and physically throughout. I have also now had the opportunity to experience giving and taking sexual pleasure in healthy space, probably for the first time in my life. I now feel excited about my sexual energy.

You have helped me hugely the last three months. I’ve always had issues stripping off, always been a bit ashamed of my body but I’ve felt so relaxed and comfortable in your presence. The last year has been a tough one for me and I’m very grateful to you for helping me pull through.

I came across Sian’s website purely by chance in early 2023, and was intrigued by the description of her Sexual Empowerment Programme. It sounded like something that could really be of benefit to me. I had a very bad stammer as a child and so had a pretty rotten time at school, and the consequences of that have really stayed with me for my entire life. I completely lacked self-confidence, had had only a few pretty disastrous sexual encounters, and chose a career in IT largely because it avoided dealing with people. I’m now in my early sixties and when I saw Sian’s programme I decided that it was a case of “now or never” for me.”

I want to give thanks for Thursday’s appointment. It was extremely valuable and worthwhile for me, a top-drawer experience. The business-like approach combined with a friendly atmosphere was very good. As well as the pure pleasure of the day, you carefully coached me in the areas I needed to pay attention to and identified a key area where I need to give attention.