Delayed ejaculation

Written by Sian Johnson

I’m passionate about helping men and their partners navigate the beautiful complexities of intimacy, desire, and relationships. As a Bodyworker and Sex Coach, I blend innovation with a holistic approach, considering not just the physical body but also the mind, heart, and soul. My goal is to create a safe space where genuine connections and transformations can happen.

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October 10, 2023

Unravelling the Mystery of Delayed Ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation, is rarely discussed as sexual concern, yet it can be a source of frustration for those who experience it. This condition, often overshadowed by its more widely known counterparts like, deserves a closer look. As a Sex Coach for Men, I’m aware just how tricky it can be for men who complain of not being able to cum. Especially as it can be just as intimidating in the bedroom as premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. What these all have in common is the pressure to sexually perform and the anxiety that comes with not being able to perform and ‘do what is expected’  

Understanding Delayed Ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation, sometimes referred to as “retarded ejaculation” or “impaired ejaculation,” is a where, despite sexual arousal and stimulation, a man cannot reach orgasm and ejaculate. While it can occur occasionally for most individuals, it becomes a concern when it consistently disrupts sexual satisfaction and intimacy.

This condition can manifest in different ways, from difficulty ejaculating during intercourse to the inability to ejaculate at all, even during masturbation. It can can be classified as either lifelong (primary) or acquired (secondary), with each having distinct causes and contributing factors.

Possible Causes of Delayed Ejaculation

Understanding the causes of delayed ejaculation is a nuanced process, often involving a combination of physical, psychological, and relational factors. These can include:

  • Psychological Factors: Anxiety, stress, depression, and past traumatic experiences can hinder the ability to reach climax.
  • Medical Conditions: Certain medical conditions, such as diabetes, neurological disorders, or prostate issues, can contribute to delayed ejaculation.
  • Medications: Some medications, including certain antidepressants and antipsychotics, may have delayed ejaculation as a side effect.
  • Relationship Dynamics: Strained relationships, communication issues, or conflicts with a partner can affect sexual performance.
  • Psychological Conditioning: Past experiences or cultural beliefs about sex can influence one’s ability to ejaculate.

If you are experiencing delayed ejaculation, it’s crucial to remember that help is available. A Sex Coach like me can provide specialised guidance and interventions tailored to your specific situation. 

Here are some potential treatment options:

  • Sex Coaching with me can take a holistic approach including identifying any underlying psycho physical issues, medication, health and vitality, self care and relationship factors that are contributing to delayed ejaculation.
  • Medication Adjustment: If medications are causing delayed ejaculation, consult with your doctor to explore alternative options or dosage adjustments.
  • Sensate Focus Exercises: Try out these or other tools, tips and intimacy games that can help couples reconnect and improve communication and alleviating psychological barriers.
  • Lifestyle Changes: Reducing stress, improving overall health, and maintaining a balanced lifestyle can positively impact sexual function.
  • Sexual Techniques: Exploring different sexual techniques and positions may enhance stimulation and arousal.

Delayed ejaculation is a complex issue with multifaceted causes and potential solutions. Arrange a call and see how I can help you to manifest a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life.