Sexual Partner Surrogacy

Sexual Partner Surrogacy

Written by Sian Johnson

I’m passionate about helping men and their partners navigate the beautiful complexities of intimacy, desire, and relationships. As a Bodyworker and Sex Coach, I blend innovation with a holistic approach, considering not just the physical body but also the mind, heart, and soul. My goal is to create a safe space where genuine connections and transformations can happen.

February 5, 2024

What is Sexual Partner Surrogacy?

Surrogate Partner Therapy is a unique, hands-on form of sex therapy. It was created in the 1970s by US based sexologists Masters and Johnson (no relation to me sadly). They believed that people could learn about sexual intimacy only by experiencing it with another person and so they developed specific techniques and guidelines to offer this professionally and safely. Trained surrogate partners work with clients around physical and emotional issues that requires the involvement of a partner. In addition to work around sexual dysfunctions, confidence and inexperience, the surrogacy that I offer as part of The Sexual Empowerment Programme enable clients to delve deeper into the realms of intimacy, connection and sexuality in a safer and more supported environment.

Why do people use a Sex Surrogate?

There is always a learning objective when working with a Sex Surrogate and working together often involves elements of coaching and communication. There are many reasons why someone wants to work with a Sexual Partner Surrogate which includes to:

  • Learn more about sex and intimacy
  • Practise ejaculation choice
  • Build sexual experience and technique
  • Experience something new
  • Understand their own body, especially in relation to another body
  • Build skills, understanding or hone techniques
  • Feel physically and emotionally close
  • Challenge some of the myths, limiting self-beliefs and overcome blocks to pleasure

Why did I become a Sex Surrogate?

During my training as a Sexological Bodyworker, I realised that many clients need supportive opportunities to build on the skills they learned in sessions with me by practising them in real life. The options available were often limited to using escorts and this was not an option for many clients or those that did rarely found it helpful. I found that incorporating skills learned through Tantra, Sexological Bodywork and coaching and after building such a level of trust with clients, offering sexual partner surrogacy seemed to be a natural progression. Now, I only offer Sexual Partner Surrogacy as part of the exclusive Platinum programme of The Sexual Empowerment Programme.

How can a Sexual Surrogate help me?

By helping you learn about:

  • Emotional and physical intimacy
  • How you like to touch and be touched
  • Communication skills
  • How to notice, trust, value and communicate your own needs
  • How to discover and understand your partner’s needs
  • A woman’s body and arousal
  • Boundaries and consent in sex and relationships
  • Ejaculation choice
  • Body confidence
  • Sexual techniques which can include touch, oral sex, penetration and anal pleasure

Furthermore, Sexual Partner Surrogacy provides a structured environment where individuals can safely explore their sexuality with a surrogate who is both understanding and professionally trained. This setup is particularly beneficial for those who have experienced sexual trauma or who have disabilities that make traditional romantic relationships challenging.

Surrogates facilitate a learning experience that is compassionate, patient, and tailored to the specific needs of each client, ensuring a journey that is as healing as it is educational.

Sexual Partner Surrogacy is more than just a means to sexual education—it’s a gateway to personal liberation and self-discovery. For many, it represents a critical step towards healing and enjoying healthier, more satisfying sexual and emotional relationships.

Whether it’s building confidence, enhancing communication, or simply exploring the dimensions of physical intimacy, sexual partner surrogacy offers a profound opportunity to enrich one’s life and overcome the obstacles that have limited their expression of intimacy.

What is my next step to working with a Sexual Partner Surrogate?

With years of experience in Sexual partner surrogacy I am best placed to help you answer all your problems. If you would like to learn about how Sexual Partner Surrogacy can help you, then check out The Sexual Empowerment Programme. A programme tailored to perfectly suit your needs when it comes to sexual partner surrogacy.